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Chasing The American Dream

March 31, 2005


I was driving home from a fab date. I felt compelled to write about it and write about “her.”


It was supposed to be, the time of my life,
My date last night could be my future wife.
The night had potential, what more could one ask
Than to date the most popular JDate girl, twas quite a task.

It all started out, oh three months ago.
I signed up for JDate, what the hell did I know?
So I searched and searched, I was looking for witty.
I couldn’t find her so I ‘settled’ for pretty.

According to JDate, she was the most popular girl.
I had nothing to lose so I gave it a whirl.
She was smart and beautiful, she’d be a tough catch,
I traded barbs with her, had I met my match?

She was tough, unyielding, a girl of few words,
My thoughts of dating her were strictly for the birds.
She is a lawyer; you know the way they act,
Calculating, cold, just the facts.

But we got along great, things were going well.
I said something stupid, and it all went to hell.
She banned me for life, no date for me.
Welcome to JDate Todd, this is reality.

And then out of nowhere you burst onto the scene,
I said to my friend, she’s THE ONE, ya know what I mean?
But you have a boyfriend, the great ones all do,
Despite that fact, I fell in love with you.

Be it ever so brief, a moment in time,
I foolishly thought that you could me mine.
But nowadays, things seem to have changed.
Your interest in me has most definitely waned.

The emails, the phone calls, even the texts,
So many I never knew which one would be next.
Messages a flyin’, like a runneth over cup,
These days barely a peep, they’ve all dried up.

For the most part I’ve noticed, my messages are ignored,
The thrill apparently gone, or maybe you’re just bored.
My days once bright, filled with messages from you,
Have returned to the dull, the drab, and the blue.

Oh don’t get me wrong, I totally understand,
You’ve got your life, to live with your man.
So where does that leave me? Out in the cold.
Disappointed again. Boy is this getting old!

With you disappearing, I returned back to Ice,
To get her to talk would certainly be nice.
I kept seeing her out there and finally said ‘hello.’
She said ‘hi’ back, well what do you know?

It started from there and worked its way along
I finally made a connection, by sending her songs.
The music she liked, progress was made
I now had some use for these concert tickets I’d paid.

I asked you first, but you could not go.
Conflict of interest, I know I know!
So I asked Ice if she liked the band called “Live,”
At the Hard Rock Casino, hardly a dive.

“Tempting,” she said. “A possibility.”
“Bullshit,” I told her. “You’re going with me.”
Amazingly she relented, to go on a date.
Another date with destiny? Another twist of fate?

“So how did it go?” You ask O-T-T (over the top)?
Unbelievably well. According to me.
She had it all, smart and looks to kill,
Was she really dating me? Wow, what a thrill!

We had dinner and drinks before the show,
The hour flew by and it was time to go.
The concert was awesome, unforgettably great.
“Live” and Ice, what an amazing date!

I had it all, even got a good night kiss.
On my drive home, I thought about this.
Could the date have been any better? Well this much I knew,
It would have been perfect, if my date was with YOU!


  • a couple of questions/comments:
    1. would love to know what your comment was that sent the girl running for the hills. if its personal, no worries, but it might help to determine why you havent had spectacular luck on the dating scene recently.

    2. i think another problem might be that you consider yourself "dating" a girl after you have gone on a date or two. you arent, and the girl knows that, and she also probably senses that you think that you are "dating". that will send them packing quickly.

    3. TRY, i have asked before, but just TRY to play it moderately cool with the next girl you are interested in. try a more laid back approach, rather than the lion that hasnt eaten in 3 months chasing a gazelle tactic that you seem to be using currently.

    4. dont go after girls with boyfriends. while you might think its cosmic karma that YOU are destined to be with her, think of how you are going to feel when some guy pulls that shit with your girlfriend. there are plenty of fish in the sea, find a fish without a boyfriend.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 3:41 AM, March 31, 2005  

  • Anon, tks for your thoughtful comment:
    1 long story..basically I finished second. See my 'Seconds' post. Stay tuned...
    2 Agreed.
    3 Agreed. Am currently playing it cool.
    4 Agreed.

    By Blogger Plantation, at 4:24 AM, March 31, 2005  

  • I agree with Anon for the most part, but if a few words (no matter what they were) sent her packing, she was looking for an excuse to get out. No one gives up that easily on a potential good relationship.

    Expanding on Anon's #2, I don't think you've ever posted about a date without referring to her as being potentially "the one", lifemate, or somesuch. Not only can this feel threatening to your date, but it sets you up for more self-deprecation. Each time you see yourself as rejected, you hurl yourself in deeper yet.

    Paradigm shift? You're in it to meet people, learn about yourself, have fun and if in the process it happens one day, GREAT. What's the rush (spoken with my best Yiddish accent)?

    By Blogger Jewels, at 5:56 AM, March 31, 2005  

  • I've also found myself believing these are imaginary girlfriends. A date or two, some great IMs, text messages...these are not relationships. And then you're completely crushed when it "wanes," as if it were the end of a real-life relationship. It's almost like watching the dating habits of a 14 year old.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:07 AM, March 31, 2005  

  • Hard to get... I think I sent you a long email about this once... which I never got a response to... *ahem*

    By Blogger girl from florida, at 10:19 PM, March 31, 2005  

  • Thanks for the comment. And yes, I found you through Greek.

    Love reading your blog. Take care.

    By Blogger Extra Strength Surfing Fingers, at 1:08 AM, April 01, 2005  

  • if i found someone to put up with me, you'll find someone someday, too. hang in there.

    By Blogger ropedncr, at 12:38 AM, April 03, 2005  

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