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Chasing The American Dream

July 17, 2007


Thanks Cher; I needed that. Well in this case, it was my dear friend Greek who set me straight. She’s been trying, and it’s not that I haven’t listened. I have; I just haven’t been able to properly execute. I equate it to a golf swing of all things. In golf, mentally I know exactly what I need to do, but I can’t get my body to physically execute the proper swing.

Relationship/dating-wise, I’ve been hitting a lot of hooks and slices lately. Mentally I know what to do, but again, the execution is lacking. I’ve chronicled my failures time and again. I’m basically listing all the problems when I write yet I never solve any of them. That’s why I asked Greek for help. She’s been through it all, she knows me, and she recognizes my patterns. The latter is the key really. Patterns.

I’m basically setting myself up for failure time each time. Reasons? It gets back to patterns, as Greek pointed out. Internet dating, meeting emotionally needy women, getting emotionally attached too soon and prior to meeting them in person, and long distance. I couldn’t argue with any of that. She’s read my patterned history of pen pals/friendships, courtships, and ultimately disappointments. She asked me why I continue with these patterns when clearly they aren’t working. Good question. I guess I’m stuck in the moments and haven’t been able to completely step outside myself. I need to pay better attention to what’s happening. You’re right, Greek. And although I think I’ve made baby step progress, that’s not enough. Not nearly. I’m tired of doin’ the Elvis Presley Suspicious Minds thing where I’m, “Caught in a trap, I can’t walk out.” I’m done with the net for ’07. Subscriptions canceled not to be renewed. Locals only. Plus, I need to shift emphasis back to book writing. It shall be my #1 priority for the remainder of the year. Hope that doesn’t make for boring blog writing, but you guys understand, right???



  • Dude, some of us out here live (okay, mostly die) by following your “exploits”, or in fact, maybe even learn something, like yeah, the internet is a good way to be “introduced” to women, but really emailing a lot is NOT the way to get to know someone – fish or cut bait as the saying goes. A couple of introductory emails and okay, let’s actually meet. Yeah, sometimes they disappear then…but c'est la vie baby. Ah well, as long as you get the book published I’ll forgive you ;). Jevan

    By Blogger Jevan, at 9:38 PM, July 17, 2007  

  • Totally understand. Write, write, write. But, pweez, don't difuse the blog. I hate when bloggers go kaput.

    By Blogger catsteevens, at 1:52 PM, July 18, 2007  

  • We understand. Just don't go completely MIA, please!

    By Blogger A, at 3:06 PM, July 18, 2007  

  • Thank God for Stephanie! She's an astute observer, that girl.

    Now that you can recognize the patterns, you can break them.

    No more twenty-somethings, no more long-distance, no more needy women. No more rescuing, showering with gifts too soon, getting ahead of yourself. No more women who take advantage of your generous nature.

    I am so excited for you! I think it will make your writing (and experiences) deeper and more fulfilling.

    (And you won't have to worry that a bad speller signals an internet scam!)

    By Anonymous ~K, at 1:48 AM, July 19, 2007  

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