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Chasing The American Dream

June 19, 2006


It’s official. Father’s Day is the worst day of the year for me. I don’t look forward to it and I can’t wait for it to end. Except for one little nine-year-old, I received no cards and no phone calls. I don’t know why this affected me so, but this was a huge disappointment. To add insult to injury, the only call I DID get was at 11:30 p.m. when Andy finally called. His mother said something about a lost phone or whatever, but I’m sure her father got a call long before I got mine.

I also had a huge fight with the model so I’m sure my naysayers are smiling and laughing and loving this post but hey, shit happens. The only saving grace was the incredible handmade card Andy made for me. He drew pictures and pasted on stickers and he told me he loved me. And incredibly, he included $3 of his own money in the card for me to buy something I liked. What a heartbreaker.

I told Andy, we’d spend the $3 at Starbucks when I come to visit him. And yay, the visit is only three weeks away.


  • Aww, I'm sorry P! This post made me so sad! I bet the card looks great and the $3....SO SWEET! Wow, that is so sweet! I love it! I hope today is better than yesterday!

    By Blogger Elle, at 12:54 PM, June 19, 2006  

  • The HEAT won! Does that help at all? Cheer up :)

    By Blogger catsteevens, at 1:49 PM, June 19, 2006  

  • That's incredibly precious.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 1:49 PM, June 19, 2006  

  • PT -- Were you looking for calls/cards from anyone other than A? Sorry, couldn't figure out what you were saying with the "Except for one little nine-year-old, I received no cards and no phone calls." Isn't A the only person you should be getting that stuff from? What am I missing here?

    He's an amazing boy. To send you his own money so you could get something you liked? That shows such a sweet heart and generous soul. You're very lucky.

    As for the model ... well ... time will tell, right?

    Best to you.

    By Anonymous ~Kabe, at 12:16 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • OMG...((heart breaking for P!))...I'm so sorry!

    Just remember (re "the model"), fights aren't always a bad thing - they usually wake you up to some very good things once they blow over.

    Erm...plus make up sex is ALWAYS good! ;)

    Cheer up, sweetheart.

    By Anonymous Hill, at 4:55 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • It must be awfully hard to be so far away from your little guy.

    You better save that card/$3 forever. How incredibly sweet!

    By Blogger A, at 7:52 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • Hey,

    Even though you are hundreds of miles away from your boy, you are still a father.

    Nobody can take that away from you, so enjoy it.

    Happy Fathers Day!


    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:35 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • A card and phone call from Andy is the ONLY thing that matters!! What a thoughtful child to MAKE a card for you and to send some of his own money, too! It should be a wonderful day in your book because you enjoy being a father and your son obviously loves you so.

    As for the model, it is what it is. For good or for bad, it's all a learning process and every time it doesn't work out, you are closer to finding the one that does (and being better prepared for it!)

    Enjoy your week!

    By Blogger Amy, at 9:54 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • Plantation love, next year I'll send you a father's day card.

    I'm always curious what the fights are about. That's where all the insight is, in the fights. I understand not wanting to put it out on the internet though... just so people can throw shit at you. Either way, everything is DATA. How someone fights, what their sensitivities (or yours) are. It's all information. If things don't work out, it doesn't mean you suck at dating. It means it just wasn't a good fit. But you know all this. Hope you're spirits are up today.

    By Blogger StephanieKlein, at 10:18 AM, June 20, 2006  

  • Thanks yall. Yes, Andy is one incredible boy. As for the model, well now, hmmm, let's see. If I gaze into the crystal ball, I think we're just gonna be friends. My specialty. Hill, you crack me up. My problem is, in order to have make up sex, I think you would have had to have sex first. So that's problem one. NYNY, I'll fill you in via email. Long story.

    By Blogger Plantation, at 8:07 PM, June 21, 2006  

  • OMG I adore Andy, hes such a sweet kid. Dad isnt bad either ;o)

    By Anonymous Christa, at 12:58 PM, June 22, 2006  

  • I can so relate, Plant. For years, Mother's Day was the worst day of the year for me. Years and years - I thought I'd never enjoy it. My son was too young to buy presents or make breakfast or even fashion a card without adult supervision, and his dad was too angry to encourage it.

    Thankfully, the young man is finally old enough to have the wherewithall to celebrate Mother's Day of his own accord...and he does!

    Your Father's Day from heaven will come, dear man....

    By Blogger Elizabeth, at 2:27 AM, June 23, 2006  

  • PLEASE. Who the Hell do you expect to acknowledged you on Father's Day ? You need to give Michele SOME credit for the fact that you got a phone call and a card. If she didn't want it to happen it wouldn't have ! Who cares if it was late - I'm sure you were up when the call came.
    Newsflash - day in and day out, phones get lost under cushions or God knows where, they lose their charge, single moms are REALLY BUSY PEOPLE.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 4:55 PM, June 26, 2006  

  • Friend/family of ex, I expect my immediate family to acknowledge me on Father's Day. Picking up the phone to say Happy Father's Day is not too much to ask, IMHO. As far as ex goes, maybe it was just a coincidence that the phone was lost. I'm sure her father wouldn't be overly excited to get a Happy Father's Day call from her at 11:30 at night. I suspect he got a call much earlier than that. Hearing from Andy is the best present I could ever think of so it simply would have been nice to hear from him early. Newsflash, busy is a lame excuse.

    By Blogger Plantation, at 5:52 PM, June 26, 2006  

  • how presumptuous of you...neither a friend or family of "ex" (such a dehumanizing reference), but I thought I knew YOU once upon a time. My harshness comes from a very dark place. My dad abandoned us, maybe he loved us, who knows ? He wasn't around to ask and our mother would allow ZERO contact. I hope your son always has the address to send you a card and a phone number to dial, whatever the hour.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 5:10 PM, June 29, 2006  

  • I was presumptious Anon because normally, no one mentions her name around here including me. So she's referred to as ex. Because you named her, I assumed you were family, especially considering where you live. The pieces fit. What else was I to think? I'm sorry about your dark place. P.S. Why won't you identify yourself?

    By Blogger Plantation, at 5:28 PM, June 29, 2006  

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