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Chasing The American Dream

December 08, 2004


“It’s time to get outta ‘da rat race! Go West young man, like Horace Greenberg once said. Get out to the range. Where the deer and the antelope play. Where seldom is heard, a discouraging word, and the skies…somethin’ somethin’ all day…” Archie Bunker, circa 1974

Over at the Greek Tragedy,
World War III is going on. My pal is under siege. Bullets flyin’ evrawheres (southern accent applied). 45 comments* (*note to readers, post has subsequently been removed for reasons pretty much described below. Although the 'rat pack' post has been removed, the pattern remains the same in terms of her readers arguing and fighting over Greek's dating posts; her post JAPS, is a typical example; therefore, I am leaving this post and my opinion open for discussion). I decided to get outta the crosshairs, come back to my peaceful blog, and watch A Charlie Brown Christmas, Now’s not the time for me to anguish in negativity. You’ve seen I’ve got enough to deal with here.

But I worry about my friend. If you check out her blog, which most of you I’m sure have already, you can quickly get the gist of it. Divorced, wanting kids, frustrated, too hard on herself, lonely, wanting THE MAN too desperately. Her writing is, of course, subject to interpretation and opinion. Is there a ‘right’ answer? No, but people think there is. And they’ll argue amongst each other until the cows come home. Cursing, name calling, insults, the whole nine yards. Nothing wrong with that, I guess. I just fail to understand why everyone thinks they need to be right. I just stay out of the way for the most part. I don’t like arguing with the readers, and I don’t really like to interpret the diva’s writing.

I’m not a milquetoast. I’ll blow the whistle and yell ‘time out’ but I’m letting this one go. Our heroine is being accused of writing that post to illicit a two-sided argument full of controversy and gain publicity. Some accuse her of being a Carrie Bradshaw wannabe. On the surface, that might appear to be true, but I don’t think I buy it. Maybe I’m naïve. Sure she wants to sell lots of books and truly ‘make it’ as a writer like we all do. But I think deep down, her stories reflect her reality, and she writes them with the utmost passion just like she lives her life. It’s funny. People don’ t rag on her when she writes emotional and passionate stories about her childhood or her love for food. But when it comes to her aggressive dating style and her affinity toward men, people swarm at her like flies on shite. To me, the posts are brilliantly expressive and wrought with emotion. Same brilliant writer, same brilliant style whether it’s about dating, or childhood memories, or food. After all, it says so in her blog title, “Stories of My Life.” You watch. The next non-dating post won’t even generate 20 comments.

I just scratch my head and wonder why people get so bitter toward each other and toward SK over a dating article? And you know what? So what IF, and I say IF, she’s writing with a slant or bias toward publicity. What is so wrong with that? It’s called selling. It’s called marketing. Gee, what strange concepts! I’m sure those same people will accuse me of the same for this post. That’s false, but who cares once again? No wonder we live in a damn rat race. I happen to be rooting for my friend SK. I hope she makes it. I think her quest parallels mine. Seems we’re all out here chasing the dream. And what, my friends, is so wrong with that?


  • She's not my heroine. Nor is she a diva, IMHO. She is, like you said, a writer trying to sell. How strong the content is, is up to the reader to decide. I wouldn't put her in the same company as a Woolf/Parker/Gellhorn/Hellman--now THOSE women had balls. SK's writing is along Bushnell's--which isn't to say is a bad thing. Americans like to read mediocre shite because they don't like to be challenged too much. Who the hell can read Kafka on a commuter train? Or Updike? Or Camus? Or Sartre? Hey, I don't blame them. LIfe, in general, in the States is enough to want to drive one to madness.

    As one who visits SK's blog daily, I must say her posts make for good entertainment. And that's it.

    By Blogger Bubbles, Ink., at 9:41 AM, December 08, 2004  

  • Ok, so before everyone gets on me about the "Americans don't want to be challenged" let me clarify. We don't quite have time to ruminate and analyze--life slides by so fast, if we just sit down at a coffee joint for more than a half hour we've missed out on something important--maybe. WEll, at least something. When I was in college or worked the night shift, I had time to sit around and read and ponder. Now...forget it. CNN Headline News for the first 4 minutes, Check back with the Associate Press website, again for headlines, and that's that. No time to delve into Moliere or anything like that. Cliff Notes and Headlines. That's it.

    By Blogger Bubbles, Ink., at 3:08 PM, December 08, 2004  

  • Funny you mention this notion of 'no time for that.' I just explained this concept to my 'old-fashioned' mom, the English major.

    -------------- Original message from xxx@aol.com:

    Hi Todd...Do blog age people read books or just read other people's internet chatter?? Whatever happened to beautiful penmanship, pretty paper, and actually setting writing materials to paper for life's observances? I still write letters and notes to people and enjoy the old timers way of communicating. It must be a lost art these days...too bad. Luv, MOM

    ------- Original message from plantation--------------

    Mom, I think the answer lies in the time factor. Quicker to type and send a cross-country letter that arrives instantaneously rather than waiting days for letters to arrive, etc. Kinda why microwave ovens were invented. You use your micro to reheat, right? Stove takes too long...

    By Blogger Plantation, at 3:17 PM, December 08, 2004  

  • I love your mom's question. There's truth in what she thinks AND how you've explained it.
    I'm not even sure some people KNOW how to hand write. Look at the atrocious spelling we're now encountering. I don't know...I, too, long for the old days when people would read by candlelight.
    Too bad. We're living in a different century. I wish I had time.

    By Blogger Bubbles, Ink., at 7:44 PM, December 08, 2004  

  • Blog age people are typically "heavy users of the Internet" so they are up for a lot of information load.
    Plus Sex and the City is more popular than postmodern texts. Female bloggers are blogging their Sex lives.
    Have you noticed how a lot of women's blogs indicate by title:- their physical attributes(pretty,tall, sometimes an animal), or something love related or their single status. Also, have you noticed the Rants and Raves on CL? Those guys have found more effective channels: they can actually target/rant at an independent attractive woman like SK.

    By Blogger Shareen, at 1:30 AM, December 09, 2004  

  • Damn you Shareen/deedee.

    Another interesting, cool blogger. So many blogs, so little time. I did a quick tour. I'll be stopping by. Good luck with your date.

    By Blogger Plantation, at 1:38 AM, December 09, 2004  

  • When I remember in advance of someone's birthday, I send a real card--purchased in a store, inscribed with a real sentiment in my own handwriting. But memory being, um, fallible, I often rely on the ability to tell my friends "happy birthday" on the day itself, and that's where the e-card comes in.

    Before I post, I always think about whether I will want this information out there forever, always linked with my name. Maybe that makes me a coward; as for SK, I admire her candor and her humor and wish her well--I just hope that she will remain happy having "all this stuff" out there with her name attached to it.

    But the internet breeds negativity, especially when readers have different opinions. I've been lucky to have escaped flaming by readers, but I've also not been able to consistently garner the kind of "ratings" that SK does...

    By Blogger Esther Kustanowitz, at 2:29 PM, December 09, 2004  

  • E, sex sells. post in the works...

    By Blogger Plantation, at 2:40 PM, December 09, 2004  

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    By Blogger Donna Giorgi, at 1:03 PM, December 10, 2004  

  • It is wonderful to see a blog that is coherent,inspiring and interesting to read. Keep posting and when you get a chance visit my blog:artbydonnagiorgi.blogspot.com


    By Blogger Donna Giorgi, at 1:08 PM, December 10, 2004  

  • DG,

    Thanks for visiting and for those kind words, wow! I'll be sure to stop by tonight after work.

    By Blogger Plantation, at 1:24 PM, December 10, 2004  

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